We know what to do before sex. And we know what to do during sex. But what about after sex? Yes, just like the secrets to being pre-coitally charming—and knowing exactly what moves and when to pull in the middle of things—the moments after sex are just as important.

2. Go to sleep

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But you couldn’t fall in love that first time – could you?
But post-coital behavior is at least slightly predictable and can be used to understand the power dynamics underlying an adult relationship. Although every couple is different, the body of research on heterosexual couples suggests that pillow talk and cuddling are important to women. Men, on the other hand, seem to prefer a drink.
Sex is all about the thrill, the anticipation, the buildup and then finally getting down to business. Or it can be spontaneous, coming out of nowhere — literally, in some cases — and being taken by surprise. Best not to focus on negatives or badger them for praise. But did you, though? Did you? Are you sure? For some reason, falling asleep right after sex is seen as the height of rudeness, like burping in a restaurant or yawning while someone is telling you their problems. But you can blame basic biology for this one. According to tireless research by scientists desperate for 40 winks after nutting, it could be down to a release of hormones that make you drowsy — prolactin, which tries to coax you into REM sleep, and oxytocin more on that one later are thought to be the main culprits.